tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3270245506969727628.post6654694441803451133..comments2024-03-27T06:51:19.327-06:00Comments on The Rains Came Down: Abuse Without a BruiseSilverRainhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00580230961425635077noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3270245506969727628.post-1982051749818742832009-12-16T08:13:46.994-07:002009-12-16T08:13:46.994-07:00"What to do" if you observe abuse is the..."What to do" if you observe abuse is the hardest question. It really doesn't have one great answer.<br /><br />My best answer is to listen. Listen to the Spirit, and listen to the victim. Most of the time, victims know in their hearts that something isn't right, but they don't believe it. Having another person acknowledge that something is wrong is a lifeline to a victim.<brSilverRainhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00580230961425635077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3270245506969727628.post-5070822559937794462009-12-10T22:00:13.616-07:002009-12-10T22:00:13.616-07:00Silver Rain, you had an insightful comment:
"...Silver Rain, you had an insightful comment:<br /><br />"There is only one person who can free a victim of abuse, and that is the victim."<br /><br />In your future writings would you mind expounding more on this? I think focusing on that is where personal growth can assist the victim.<br /><br />There is a saying I heard once that there could be a room full of people and a victim and Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3270245506969727628.post-58963234239168555542009-12-07T21:12:52.024-07:002009-12-07T21:12:52.024-07:00But what can you possibly do when the victim doesn...But what can you possibly do when the victim doesn't see or doesn't want to see the problem? What can you possibly do when someone you love is in a terrible, manipulative relationship, made to fill like dog crap over and over again, but when told, "You deserve better", responds by telling you that you don't know what you're talking about, that her husband is the most Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3270245506969727628.post-66526842205429057692009-12-07T11:08:06.912-07:002009-12-07T11:08:06.912-07:00Although your post seems aimed at marital abuse, y...Although your post seems aimed at marital abuse, you have more fully opened my eyes to abuse that was developing between my daughter and a friend - a troubled boy her own age.<br /><br />We had him into our home and felt all was safe if we were here. It was not. Nothing happened physically, but I see now that he was grooming her for abuse, or just abusing her mentally and emotionally first. He Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3270245506969727628.post-12525524073411889832009-12-04T19:44:37.207-07:002009-12-04T19:44:37.207-07:00SilverRain, physical abuse, as you indicate, is mo...SilverRain, physical abuse, as you indicate, is more obvious than other types of abuse. I hope that those of us that are not prone to physical abuse do not overlook the fact that we may even unknowingly perpetrate other types of abuse.<br /><br />I think we will be surprised- hopefully pleasantly so- to find out at some point how seemingly insignificant things that we say and do in some cases Jimnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3270245506969727628.post-19470229682841124102009-12-03T14:03:02.663-07:002009-12-03T14:03:02.663-07:00Silver Rain, thanks so much for posting this post,...Silver Rain, thanks so much for posting this post, it is very astute, and may serve to help someone else awaken to their awful situation before it is to late.<br /><br />Abuse is such a sad thing, I have watched some very dynamic women (my sister and my sister-in-law to name a few) be reduced to just shadows of their former selves, when they could have been even greater had their husbands chosen Allanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03436545023417921523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3270245506969727628.post-59052868183020520632009-12-03T06:39:06.834-07:002009-12-03T06:39:06.834-07:00I will be interested in this. I have a Sister in ...I will be interested in this. I have a Sister in law who deals with a pretty near constant abuse from her husband. This is difficult because she feels obligated to stay because of the kids and her view of her temple covenants. She hopes that in the resurrection everything will be solved and resolved. So....what to do?Eric Nielsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00530011180028252442noreply@blogger.com