tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3270245506969727628.post3122463305856093752..comments2023-08-08T03:34:51.418-06:00Comments on The Rains Came Down: Dear Men: You’re Breaking Our HeartsSilverRainhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00580230961425635077noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3270245506969727628.post-86606812467064790152020-08-28T07:22:44.457-06:002020-08-28T07:22:44.457-06:00I would point out that marrying just for appearanc...I would point out that marrying just for appearance will usually result in suffering for the man in question (ask anyone who made the mistake of marrying a gold-digger just because she was pretty when they first met). <br /><br />When these days it's so easy to upgrade your natural looks via makeup, surgery, diet, gym, etc, choosing a partner just for appearance is idiotic. You can buy beautyJumphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02134762993913873794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3270245506969727628.post-85270030293688056042015-01-15T15:05:51.189-07:002015-01-15T15:05:51.189-07:00It was interesting, as I read, to have the immedia...<em>It was interesting, as I read, to have the immediate feeling of "is it me?" </em><br /><br />Sometimes it's me. Not as often as it was, but old, ingrained cultural habits die hard and must be excised by conscious effort. I'm a half-century old; I'm better than our fathers and grandfathers. My sons are better than me.<br /><br />But I will also better myself. I will Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3270245506969727628.post-67364472763520362392014-04-05T19:55:15.429-06:002014-04-05T19:55:15.429-06:00Every heart yearns to be loved and nurtured, for w...Every heart yearns to be loved and nurtured, for what they are, for who they are, and to be considered equal, beauty playing no part in the equation. Beauty only on the outside, can often be a cold venture, one unworthy of taking. And no, not all beautiful creations are cold or unfeeling, then again, a few are. Since I'm not a beautiful creation, I don't have to worry about it. But the Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3270245506969727628.post-56958323874129296282013-11-26T10:06:20.904-07:002013-11-26T10:06:20.904-07:00I agree. Men are more than pocketbooks. I did have...I agree. Men are more than pocketbooks. I did have someone point out to me once (a man) that the difference from an LDS perspective is the provide/nurture responsibilities. There is a difference between valuing a man for his pocketbook, and wanting a man who is willing to provide for his family. It would be like the difference between valuing a woman for her looks/sex and wanting a woman who isSilverRainhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00580230961425635077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3270245506969727628.post-55122725300129485062013-11-26T09:18:28.439-07:002013-11-26T09:18:28.439-07:00Replace "physical beauty" in this post w...Replace "physical beauty" in this post with "material wealth" and you quickly see things from a man's perspective. You are more than a body and I am more than a checkbook. Shallowness is a two-way street.nohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11873868872193371252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3270245506969727628.post-9385846266498503672013-11-22T17:18:43.172-07:002013-11-22T17:18:43.172-07:00Mark, objectification can happen regarding more th...Mark, objectification can happen regarding more than just appearance. The bishop discussed appearance, I brought it up as only one example of it.<br /><br />To me, negative objectification happens when a person defines and treats another person solely according to their own needs. In other words, it's great to be attracted to someone. But it's not good to expect someone else to dress SilverRainhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00580230961425635077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3270245506969727628.post-53957028256007445512013-11-22T14:03:03.216-07:002013-11-22T14:03:03.216-07:00Thank you Mark. Looks are just the cover on a book...Thank you Mark. Looks are just the cover on a book. All the really important things are to be found on the inside. Yvonne Stephensonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14604335434167862809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3270245506969727628.post-842451876088870332013-11-22T10:25:32.651-07:002013-11-22T10:25:32.651-07:00Has any man who doesn't value a woman for more...Has any man who doesn't value a woman for more than her appearance ever spent five minutes alone with one? Seriously - the idea is ridiculous. Some may place entirely too much emphasis on that, but valuing appearance alone? I don't think so.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03099292600986338652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3270245506969727628.post-20677431753350646212013-11-21T15:15:25.333-07:002013-11-21T15:15:25.333-07:00*LOL* Thanks, Jeff. Now my appearance is red. ;)*LOL* Thanks, Jeff. Now my appearance is red. ;)SilverRainhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00580230961425635077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3270245506969727628.post-26814438952620940722013-11-21T14:07:42.733-07:002013-11-21T14:07:42.733-07:00Well SR, I have no idea what you look like, but I ...Well SR, I have no idea what you look like, but I can honestly say that you have been my internet crush for a while now. Your comments and posts have always struck a chord in me like nobody else's has. Jeff Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11344848794614278761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3270245506969727628.post-38995781551608949212013-11-20T10:42:31.123-07:002013-11-20T10:42:31.123-07:00Note teh quote is from "On Souls Symbols and ...Note teh quote is from "On Souls Symbols and Sacraments" when Iwent to seach for it and found this talk on Discouragement. http://speeches.byu.edu/?act=viewitem&id=869<br /><br />SilverRain, may I say, as a man and priesthood bearer how much I apreciate your courage, and honesty, and willingness to be vulnerable as you instruct us in the ways of righteousness and how to be "Josephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07636740926033505057noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3270245506969727628.post-18992166029669556192013-11-19T23:08:35.131-07:002013-11-19T23:08:35.131-07:00L.T. said exactly what was in my heart, and far mo...L.T. said exactly what was in my heart, and far more eloquently than I could ever hope to. Your blog post is beautiful, heart-wrenching, and timely. And really, we're here on this earth to overcome "the natural man." It saddens me to hear of brethren in the church who claim that in this respect, there is no overcoming to do. That this is simply how we are.<br /><br />I adore Elder Kimberly Vanderhorsthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01653757517652257445noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3270245506969727628.post-63392106588674519802013-11-19T20:35:28.398-07:002013-11-19T20:35:28.398-07:00I found your blog through a friend on FB and I can...I found your blog through a friend on FB and I can't help but comment. This is a thoughtful, heartbreaking post. I read that Meridian article and felt ill afterward. I truly believe that line of thinking is wrong and doesn't just misrepresent how God views His daughters, but that it is absolutely contrary to how God view's His girls.<br /><br />My heart is broken for the dearth of Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3270245506969727628.post-20861501383997450882013-11-19T17:19:13.799-07:002013-11-19T17:19:13.799-07:00I am not sure if there is a more dysfunctional dyn...I am not sure if there is a more dysfunctional dynamic in our Church than the one that occurs in a singles ward. I tried to read the Bishop's talk. I got about halfway through it before I quit reading it. Although much of it was good, there is a lot that left me shaking my head and saying, "WOW ... just wow."Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06057830769014250381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3270245506969727628.post-39266271088141083332013-11-19T15:37:38.341-07:002013-11-19T15:37:38.341-07:00Frank, for what it's worth, just that you'...Frank, for what it's worth, just that you're wondering if it's you is a sign that it probably isn't. Granted, I don't know you well, but I've never seen these things in you. Almost every man I can point to who don't exhibit these qualities are married, which tells me that marriage can teach these kinds of things which are harder to get to single. But I don't think SilverRainhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00580230961425635077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3270245506969727628.post-19558489436212692582013-11-19T14:31:03.195-07:002013-11-19T14:31:03.195-07:00I wish there were more commiserating about the lac...I wish there were more commiserating about the lack of men stepping up than there is telling women how they should "fix themselves" to make them more marriage material. I know married men aren't as much of a concern for you, but I think the same can eb said to many of them as well. I mean, this Bishop is married. I'm amazed that being over a singles ward, most likely hearing Frank Pelletthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08830375239700028422noreply@blogger.com