tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3270245506969727628.post3494763790459061183..comments2024-03-27T06:51:19.327-06:00Comments on The Rains Came Down: Don't Marry Me for Who I AmSilverRainhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00580230961425635077noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3270245506969727628.post-86555773821665349742011-08-11T19:07:11.829-06:002011-08-11T19:07:11.829-06:00I think that saying "Marry someone who loves ...I think that saying "Marry someone who loves and accepts you for who you are" is intended to convey a focus on the positive, rather than the negative. It's about trying to find someone who is excited about the positive characteristics you can bring to the marriage to the extent that they are willing to be patient with the negative characteristics and not consider the negative as Michaela Stephenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04163084369311708249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3270245506969727628.post-19718407966724131032011-08-10T17:58:58.484-06:002011-08-10T17:58:58.484-06:00"I want someone who can allow me to change, t..."I want someone who can allow me to change, to grow and adapt." That's a good thing to want and a hard thing to find. In my experience if we're lucky we grow and plateau and grow and plateau. It's difficult to start a new long term relationship or stay in an old one during the growth phase but coping skills and an enlightened mate help.Howardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09007746538745044815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3270245506969727628.post-74015754080117264172011-08-10T17:13:18.739-06:002011-08-10T17:13:18.739-06:00This is a fascinating post, SR.
The counsel to ...This is a fascinating post, SR. <br /><br />The counsel to marry a person for who he or she is has a certain amount of wisdom: I can't force my spouse (or anyone else for that matter) to change.<br /><br />But I do remember thinking when I met my wife (we were babies -- college freshmen -- at the time), I did get to know a lot about her goals and aspirations -- what she wanted for herself Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11294214866282354575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3270245506969727628.post-47572870505294130822011-08-10T08:43:31.866-06:002011-08-10T08:43:31.866-06:00I know of very few people who love everything abou...I know of very few people who love everything about themselves. We all have a lot of baggage; things we are trying to improve on, bad habits we cling to, etc.<br /><br />The trick is finding someone who loves you for who you <i>really</i> are, the you that you have a hard time seeing, the you that your Father in Heaven sees, beyond all the baggage. Someone who can help you see glimmers of that Frank Pelletthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08830375239700028422noreply@blogger.com